Attachment theory is at the root of children's wellbeing. A child with secure attachment to a parent/caregiver evolves with stronger sense of self and belonging vs. a child with insecure attachment evolves lacking that sense of self and security. Check out this article for a better explanation. https://www.verywell.com/attachment-styles-2795344
What is the solution? Help children and parents become more securely attached to each other. Spend more time listening and less time talking. Be vulnerable and culturally sensitive. Don't tell someone what they need, ask what they need. Don't tell them how to do it....show them how to do it. Ask how you can help. Don't judge. Pay it forward. Be the change you wish to see in the world. Lead by example. Engage children and families in the process of helping themselves. Don't give them a fish, teach them to fish.
A child is part of a family system. The family system is part of larger systems: school, work, community. If a family isn't functioning as an internal system, how can they possibly be successful in external systems? The solution for sustainable change MUST be to engage and empower the entire family. After all...it's a high probability the parent(s) suffered many of the same trauma and challenges when they were children. Recognizing that policies and procedures are important...WE as a society need to remind ourselves that we're talking about people, real people, and impacting human beings. Being reactive with one size fits all solutions isn't working. Solutions need to be proactive, culturally sensitive, and family centered.
We all want to be loved. We must love ourselves first. Telling children they are loved and showing them they are loved are gifts every child deserves. We as individuals and as communities all need to work on helping all children (and their parents) unlock their fullest potential.